Showing posts with label empowerment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label empowerment. Show all posts

Wednesday, 10 October 2018

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: Endurance or Survival?


Fresh from another session of consolation for my friend who is currently fighting for her life in her marriage, I began to ponder on the roles played by the victims themselves in encouraging violence in such marriages. I try always not to be a “modaru” (intruder) in anyone’s marriage whenever such conflicts are being discussed, but then, the truth should be told.

I don’t know about you, but I think one of the reasons why some women continue to suffer domestic abuse is because they cover up for their husbands. Many were taught to protect their marriage, especially by “marriage counselors” who plant this stereotyped brand of matrimonial secrecy in them. They’ve been warned that the only way a marriage could work is when you avoid third parties and you settle all conflict internally. That’s very good, but... Ok.

I’m not against privacy in marriage, in fact, I don’t joke with my privacy and you dare not invade it. But my point is; there’s a limit to such secrecy. What are you really bothered about when you cover up for a man who bashes you at every little provocation? Most times the answer is “what people will say”. We all have a couple of those bad-mouthed family or friends who will jeer at us when we fail, but isn’t it better to get mocked while you’re alive than getting blamed for your own death after you’re gone?

Besides, no matter how well you try to be upright, people will still talk about you anyway, so why not just do what is best for your life and move on? Speak out! Seek help and stop hiding behind those stupid, fake loved-up pictures you post on social media. Who are you fooling? You keep hoping and praying he will change. When exactly? After you’re dead? It’s even worse when they blame the devil! Smh!

I know a lot of men endure victimization in some ways too. You protect your wife creating the impression that she’s a diva, she’s your queen. You don’t want the wifey-inlaw drama so you make everyone believe you’re married to the best woman in the world. Nobody knows she’s a monster back home until she pushes you to the wall, when you reach your boiling point, you hit her…

Guess what... There’s no better way to announce yourself to the world as the biggest monster than to beat up the “best woman in the world”. So your years of keeping the secrets of her behaviours and enduring them have won you nothing but stigma... That’s if she’s not courageous enough to stab you in your sleep.

So people, why don’t you think beyond those counsels that teach you how to endure but never teach you how to survive? They promise you how bright the future is if you endure but never reminding you how dark the graveyard is in case you die. Think about it, only the living can hope and endure.

To all the real men out there who have stayed strong and mature, never beaten their wives or any woman for that matter, I salute you including my humble self and I pray “may you walk and never stumble”.

To my enduring lady friend, hmmm… I pray God heals your recent wounds, clean your old scars and above all, I pray you survive. You will survive!

Thursday, 18 January 2018

CUSTOMER RELATIONSHIP Part 2: Benefits of Relationship Marketing to Firms


We started this topic about two month ago when I posted CUSTOMERRELATIONSHIP Part 1: The Concept of Relationship Marketing. In that post, we analyzed Relationship Marketing as it is being practiced by various organizations around the world, while we also tried to introduce the concept to those who may not have been familiar with it before now. Here, we have the second part of the series where we are able to begin examining the benefits of Relationship Marketing.
Relationship marketing yields several benefits to the firms that practice it, as also to the targeted customers, but we will examine both of these groups separately starting now with the firms. It is advisable for firms not to expect the full benefits of Relationship marketing immediately; rather it is a practice you imbibe in your organizational culture such that the benefits begin to come to fruition in the long run. These benefits which we will discuss are summarized into four, namely:
  • Repeat business
  • Enhanced brand loyalty
  • Increased long-term profitability
  • Brand building
REPEAT BUSINESS
There are several excellent examples of firms using relationship-marketing programmes to gain the repeat business. The Air Taxi Operators (now given the status of an airline) started in India in 1992. Other private airlines like Damania Airways, Jet Airways and Modiluft were also for the first time allowed to compete with the Indian state Airlines. The target segment chosen by these ATOs (Air Taxi Operators) for example was the business and upper class traveller. Their in-flight service was tailored to attract this segment. So, in order to counter the threat to its business, Indian Airlines went in for a new promotional scheme termed as frequent-flier scheme. The scheme was to focus through direct marketing on the class of buyers who were defecting to private airlines. Both Air India and Indian Airlines had a database of regular fliers. They also used secondary sources like Diners Club to start a marketing campaign targeting about 15,000 such prospects all over the country.
The campaign was that as fliers start accumulating points either on IA (Indian Airlines) or AI (Air India) or both, they become eligible for free trips. The threshold was 3 000 points after which free trips could be claimed. There was an entry fee of 1,000Rupees (NGN5,500; U$D15) to join the programme. This was necessary to avoid people who don’t travel by air all that often. The time limit for accumulating the required number of points was three years. From about 1,000 members initially, the membership increased to 20,000 by April 1995.
The move was initiated as a promotional tactic to save the fledgling market share of the airline, but inadvertently this also marked the beginning of a new era of relationship marketing for the airline. The scheme continues to expand till date because the members themselves suggest the names of friends and colleagues who could be involved in the programme.
In case of business-to-business marketing, where firms scramble for new recipes to retain existing customers, relationship marketing can help in reducing the number of lost customers by enhancing customer satisfaction.
The marketing function in any organization is expected to perform the job of turning an unaware person into a satisfied user through the following successive steps.

Unaware
Aware but not knowledgeable
Knowledgeable
 Occasional user
Satisfied regular user


Relationship marketing goes one step beyond this and converts satisfied users into life-time customers by sustaining their interest in the product and satisfying their needs more effectively. Little wonder that DHL Worldwide gets its 90 percent business from relationship marketing alone.

ENHANCED BRAND LOYALTY
Marketing programmes of firms are often aimed at identifying prospects and turning them into customers. In order to expand business and achieve growth, firms are required to perpetually design and launch new marketing programmes. This involves a huge cost. However, if a firm is able to retain a certain percentage of customers, the efforts as well as cost of marketing can be reduced substantially.
Relationship marketing takes over from where conventional marketing leaves a customer. Maintaining direct contact with the customer and taking care of his problems to deliver satisfaction may turn an occasional customer into a regular client, and a client to a strong admirer of the firm. Finally it may turn an admirer into an advocate and opinion leader giving positive word-of-mouth to the firm and its products. A positive word-of-mouth from a satisfied customer often works better than the best advertisement, especially in case of high-involvement products and services.

INCREASED LONG-TERM PROFITABILITY
Firms may increase their long-term profitability by extending the concept of relationship marketing to their suppliers, channel members and influence groups. Vendor relationship may help in reducing the number of suppliers and in bringing down the level of inventories. It may save the firm in terms of inventory and warehousing costs as also transportation and material handling costs. The cost of placing orders and paperwork may also get reduced substantially. This is why firms like Xerox, Motorola, General Electric and Ford are reducing their supplier bases and looking for a few select vendors to help them achieve a stronger competitive position.
Research studies in the USA indicate that apart from being able to harness the strengths and skills of suppliers to their advantage, manufacturers in long-term relationships with them may also benefit from improved quality, process performance and continuous cost reductions
Long-term relationship with channel members may ensure better channel support, higher volumes of business and reduced cost of marketing. Strong channel support may also act as hedging against competitors’ marketing efforts. Long-term relationships with various stakeholders and interest groups such as financing institutes, public representatives, trade unions, press or media people, consumer protection groups and environmental groups may help in improving the public image of the firm. This may indirectly contribute to higher volumes of business, improved productivity and profitability of the firm.

BRAND BUILDING
In a competitive environment relationship marketing may be used as an effective tool for brand building. Till the early 1990s, cement was largely regarded as a commodity. Availability and price dictated the purchase decision more often than any other factor. Several players had an equally good quality image and few customers insisted on buying only from a particular company. The customer base for cement is also not homogeneous. There are different categories of cement-buyers in the market—the mason, civil engineer, contractor and institutional or large-scale buyers. In mid-1993, Indian Rayon, makers of Birla brand cement, decided to upgrade certain dealers to become “Birla supershoppes” because the company wanted to change the way it interacted with the customer. The ‘supershoppes’ were to become a hub of relationship with the customer.
The company wanted to guide and educate buyers for using a specific product for specific application. Based on the type of construction, the aim was to recommend the right type of cement to the customer. Each ‘shoppe’ thus employed a civil engineer and a task force to assist him. If necessary, the team visits the sites to demonstrate or to solve the construction-related problems. Advice is also given on the size of the beam to be used or the kind of steel reinforcement needed in the column.
To consolidate the relationship further, each ‘shoppe’ organizes a regular customer meet, where the actual users are invited and given technical advice and practical solutions. Results of this relationship approach have been spectacular. Each ‘shoppe’ is doing on an average; double the business a normal dealer does anywhere. As at 1995, Indian Rayon had 50 shoppes and 20 more were to be set up by the end of 1996.
Multinational brands such as Reebok, Seagram, Citibank, DHL Worldwide Express, and Indian firms such as Mafatlal, Ceat tyres, Lakme are now taking the relationship route to strengthen their brand equities

Reference: National Institute of Business Management – Marketing Management – Module II
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Saturday, 30 December 2017

CARRY YOUR CROSS My Friend.

The reason many people can’t seem to find peace is because they’ve mistaken the cross they should carry as a problem they should solve.
Some of our worries are problems which require solutions, while some are crosses which we must carry and follow our maker. But right now, many of us are still running around looking for solutions to perceived problems when actually, all we require is wisdom and strength to carry the cross.
As we round up and enter a new year, I want to encourage everyone to start making efforts at identifying what issues of his/her life require seeking solutions and which ones require handling with courage in 2018. Even when the problems are well identified, we shouldn’t complicate things and seek solutions in the wrong places.
We have equal rights to God, so let no “spiritualist” feed on your gullibility. Some of them give you visions and prophesies, you dedicate your resources to the recommended solutions, then they blame you for lack of faith when their ideas don’t come to pass, and then you start cursing your luck, especially when you see others receiving miracles and victories for similar challenges!
Perhaps, for that man/woman who got his miracle, it was a problem, while for you it is a cross. Perhaps it is even also a problem for you, but the appointed time for solution had not come or your own solution is not “spirituality” but common sense strategies. Think deep for the New Year, identify your solutions, find yourself some peace of mind and let new ideas be birthed in you.
Accepting to carry your cross is not the same as accepting defeat; neither should we give up without a fight. However, God has not promised us life without troubles and we should remember his thoughts for us are of peace and not of evil to give us an ‘expected’ end (Jeremiah 29: 11).
Many of us pray for “light at the end of the tunnel”, just like in the case of Joseph, Job, Sarah, Hannah in the bible. We covet fulfillment of great promises like in Abraham, David, Solomon, etc. But we hardly feel sorry for Judas Iscariot for having such a destiny of betraying our savior Jesus Christ. We should sometimes wonder too why Moses never saw the Promised Land? “His enemies prevailed on him”?
If Judas had the chance to change his destiny, I’m sure he would choose to be remembered as a saint. He dined with Jesus, had access to salvation, but Jesus Christ did not save him from such a shameful ending. Did you say it was written? Yes it was, just as some of our challenges in life were written too and we must seek the courage to handle them.
It is either we manage our challenges or we let them define our existence and how we end our lives. Bad times don’t last forever, even if they do, there will always be some few times when every human will find mercy in midst of storms. Let those periodic victories ignite sincere gratitude and praise to the almighty. Find yourself some peace in the word of God in John 16: 33 “…In the world ye shall have tribulations; but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world”.
Have a fruitful 2018. Amani juu yenu!
@Tywo Akintoye

http://tywoakintoye.blogspot.com.ng

Wednesday, 8 March 2017

A people, more than a gender. #BeBoldForChange #IWD2017

The write-up below was tiled "A people, not a gender", I published it on LinkedIn after the 2016 international Women's Day. Today 8th of March 2017 happens to be another celebration of women around the world and I'm posting the article once again to promote my views on some aspects of gender equality.  The theme for International Women’s Day, 8 March 2017, focuses on “ Women in the Changing World of Work: Planet 50-50 by 2030 ”. Its also a campaign to encourage women to #BeBoldForChange. So I celebrate all the hardworking women in the world today and I hope my country Nigeria someday becomes a better place for all, irrespective of 
"A few of weeks ago, I read an article from an unidentified author which focused on his or her perceived disparities between the manner in which a girl child and a boy child are raised, suggesting that daughters enjoy better attention and training which contributes to why many of them attain financial independence quicker and consequently turn out to be breadwinners over their husbands. The article was written in preparation for the international women’s day and I quote a portion of it where the writer says;
"In too many homes, the wives are the bread winners. Too many women are paying the rent and picking bills that make a man the man. We do not need figures from the Office of Statistics because I know every woman in this country knows at least one family where the man is not truly the head. He is just a figure head... A son attends Babcock University in Nigeria or Imperial College in United Kingdom with a daughter but the daughter is trained to cook, pamper a man, be nice to in-laws and bring up children, all while she’s getting a degree. The son learns how to play basketball and wash a car. The daughter learns how to bake and how to make hair and do make-up. Girls with Masters Degrees see nothing wrong in going to learn dress making. Boys dust their CVs and write glowing stuff about themselves and send out thousands of job applications. After two or three years of fruitless search for non-existent jobs, don’t our boys start ‘processing visas’ to travel to even the most ridiculous places, countries with no pastures, least of all green ones? Meanwhile, the girls set up make-up studios, start ‘mixing cream’ making hats and dresses and everything that makes money. The boys wait for the big time to arrive in one day. It doesn’t, rarely does. So the girls begin to grow in age and in bank balance. Ripe for marriage but no man is plucking because they are still waiting. See why girls are marrying late? They acquire degrees and cars, some even properties while waiting for Mr. Right to come along. By the time he eventually comes along, the girl is already doing well in business, entrepreneurial skills honed. For a while, love covers the gap but men are not wired to be anything but the head".
Well said from a woman's perspective, but these are my thoughts. Raising our sons to earn soft skills has gone beyond the responsibility of the parents in this present day, while daughters who acquire such skills don't do so as a result of any special attention from the mother or father. The survival instinct of every individual determines how he or she reacts to his lacks and wants. By giving credit to the women folk for a perceived faster pace to financial security, I think the writer of that article has failed to pay attention to the other side of the coin. Firstly, from time immemorial, petty trading has been a thing of the women while handwork had been more synonymous to men, but when you find women or girls taking to handwork, you see majority of them going for those with the petty trading traits like bead making, make-up artistry, cake baking etc. (Though they're all big industries now). But talking about the boys; do I really think they all want to wear ties and tout CVs around? NO. Has the writer checked the rate at which the number of young boys increases in fields like web designing, graphic artistry, video production, photography etc.? They simply do their own thing the masculine way and that's why they learn and offer skills that do not limit them to the patronage of individuals only but also the patronage of organizations, trying to “package” themselves for corporate acceptability.
Media and Entertainment for example is a major industry across the world and our boys are not left behind. 70% of Nigerian young men born after 1974 is involved as a singer, rapper, actor, model, DJ, musical instrumentalist or so, if he's neither of those, then he's probably equipped with audiovisual skills either in studio engineering/production or movies/music video production. Go to Alaba market and you'll be marveled at the number of graduates you find there selling CDs and DVDs. Go to Jibowu or Mokola, the two major printing hubs in Lagos and Ibadan, 90% of people working there are boys in their 20s, 30s and 40s, they help us fix our complementary cards, invitation cards, school books etc. The question to our government, CEOs and uncles at the top is... How conducive is our environment for these young entrepreneurs? Boyz are hustling but are d uncles patronizing them? Is the government supporting SMEs? If the female child was the one getting more attention or training from the mother, how come we have thousands of our girls getting introduced to “aristo” every day? How come we have more cases of girls traveling abroad for prostitution every day? How come we have more female house helps than the male ones? For every yahoo boy, there's a yahoo girl partner!
The increase in number of homes where the woman is the breadwinner for me is a pointer to the fact that women are now stepping up their game, working hard to earn something unlike the days when girl education was seen by parents as a waste of money, thus producing loads of illiterate full housewives who end up as their husband's property and responsibility with no right to decision making except those of what to cook and when to get pregnant. Women now need to be successful just as a man should; after all it is not written in any book that a woman's career or financial destiny should be tied to her husband's. Domestic crisis emanating as a result of the woman being richer are more of personality issues from both couple. An abusive man rich or poor will remain abusive while a saucy woman employed or jobless will equally remain rude.
My submission is this; the youths in Nigeria have the same problems, irrespective of their gender. Girls getting financially established faster than the boys, then turning out to be bread winners over their husbands is totally not an indication of how untrained the boys are or how better trained the girls are in alternative skills. We cannot say absolutely that while our girls in the absence of white collar jobs quickly embrace alternative means of income, the boys don't have various other trades or skills they learn to make ends meet too. The boys have no catching up to do with the girls, but rather our country need to catch up with other great nations. I just heard this morning that power supply is worse in Bangladesh than in Nigeria! So, how come there are many "made in Bangladesh" products in our market? It shows that some countries in worse situations than Nigeria even manage to be productive while we depend forever on crude oil! Looking at the International Women’s Day 2016 campaign theme #PledgeForParity we need to rise above gender disparity, tribal and religious differences and think about how we can have a Nigeria which is better managed in terms of economy and infrastructural development. Then we may begin to witness the consequences of a better Nigeria in all our micro-economic lives.
Trust me, for every Lynda Cakes, there is Musa Graphics, for every Omolola Makeovers, there is Emeka photos, for every Fatima the bead maker, I'm sure you'll find DJ Frankie the beat maker. But, if truly the girls "make it" faster than the boys, then we all should ask ourselves why it is so?"
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