Showing posts with label motivation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motivation. Show all posts

Wednesday, 10 October 2018

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: Endurance or Survival?


Fresh from another session of consolation for my friend who is currently fighting for her life in her marriage, I began to ponder on the roles played by the victims themselves in encouraging violence in such marriages. I try always not to be a “modaru” (intruder) in anyone’s marriage whenever such conflicts are being discussed, but then, the truth should be told.

I don’t know about you, but I think one of the reasons why some women continue to suffer domestic abuse is because they cover up for their husbands. Many were taught to protect their marriage, especially by “marriage counselors” who plant this stereotyped brand of matrimonial secrecy in them. They’ve been warned that the only way a marriage could work is when you avoid third parties and you settle all conflict internally. That’s very good, but... Ok.

I’m not against privacy in marriage, in fact, I don’t joke with my privacy and you dare not invade it. But my point is; there’s a limit to such secrecy. What are you really bothered about when you cover up for a man who bashes you at every little provocation? Most times the answer is “what people will say”. We all have a couple of those bad-mouthed family or friends who will jeer at us when we fail, but isn’t it better to get mocked while you’re alive than getting blamed for your own death after you’re gone?

Besides, no matter how well you try to be upright, people will still talk about you anyway, so why not just do what is best for your life and move on? Speak out! Seek help and stop hiding behind those stupid, fake loved-up pictures you post on social media. Who are you fooling? You keep hoping and praying he will change. When exactly? After you’re dead? It’s even worse when they blame the devil! Smh!

I know a lot of men endure victimization in some ways too. You protect your wife creating the impression that she’s a diva, she’s your queen. You don’t want the wifey-inlaw drama so you make everyone believe you’re married to the best woman in the world. Nobody knows she’s a monster back home until she pushes you to the wall, when you reach your boiling point, you hit her…

Guess what... There’s no better way to announce yourself to the world as the biggest monster than to beat up the “best woman in the world”. So your years of keeping the secrets of her behaviours and enduring them have won you nothing but stigma... That’s if she’s not courageous enough to stab you in your sleep.

So people, why don’t you think beyond those counsels that teach you how to endure but never teach you how to survive? They promise you how bright the future is if you endure but never reminding you how dark the graveyard is in case you die. Think about it, only the living can hope and endure.

To all the real men out there who have stayed strong and mature, never beaten their wives or any woman for that matter, I salute you including my humble self and I pray “may you walk and never stumble”.

To my enduring lady friend, hmmm… I pray God heals your recent wounds, clean your old scars and above all, I pray you survive. You will survive!

Tuesday, 20 February 2018

CUSTOMER RELATIONSHIP Part 3: Benefits of Relationship Marketing to Customers


The first part of this series has analyzed the concept of Relationship Marketing while the second part titled CUSTOMER RELATIONSHIP Part 2: Benefits of Relationship Marketing to Firms outlined its benefits to organizations that practice it. Here, I present another sequel and third part of a theme we started couple of months back, which highlights what customers stand to gain when organizations engage in relationship marketing.
Customers many times don’t give deliberate attention to brand loyalty; they just want the best, most affordable or most convenient product or service. But most times they subconsciously find themselves stuck on a product, usually as a result of the relationship marketing tactics deployed by the manufacturer. So, in the long run, the customers enjoy the services being rendered to them and also benefit through relationship marketing because they get a better product, a good backup service and the company is always prepared to listen to their grievances. Such major customer benefits may be summarized as follows:
- Superior value through better products and services
- Attention to customer complaints
- Customization of products and services

BETTER PRODUCTS AND SERVICES
All such firms that have taken the relationship route have invested substantially in improving the quality of products and create systems to provide the requisite backup service. Because to retain a customer it is necessary to keep him/her satisfied.
When Philips NV, the Netherlands-based electronic giant, developed an online product for children that would soon be launched in Europe, they sent industrial designers, cognitive psychologists and sociologists in mobile vans to communities in Italy, France and the Netherlands to help brainstorm for ideas for new electronic products to meet customers’ changing needs. They hosted a dialogue in which specialists ‘and customers interactively imagined new possibilities. Philips looked at all the ideas, narrowed them down and settled on one online interactive product for children. The researchers then went back to the communities and tested the new product idea on the same children.
Another example relates to how Unilever group gave us an insight into how firms are trying to solve their customers’ product application related problems in India. Kitchens of institutions like hotels, hostels, airports and factory canteens work almost continually without enough time available for cleaning. Kitchen grills usually have extremely greasy deposit formations on them, which are tough to clean.
Traditionally, using chlorine has been the preferred method for cleaning them. Besides the fact that chlorine is a hazardous chemical, the process itself is arduous because the grill needs to be dismantled, cleaned and left out to dry overnight. So there is need for a backup grill while one is being cleaned.
Lever Industrial already had its Taski and Clax range of cleaning products for such applications, but when confronted with the problem of cleaning kitchen grills, Lever Industrial found that these products were not fully effective. The company therefore asked its R&D division to develop a new product for this specific application. Within a few months they came out with Suma grill-cleaning liquid. It is non-hazardous in nature and removes deposits without any need for dismantling the grill.
ATTENTION TO CUSTOMER COMPLAINTS
To win and retain customer loyalties, it is essential to hear the complaints and solve their grievances effectively. Philips Electronics started a 24-hour complaint registration service for customers. Some of their service centres offers free check-up of sets to be repaired. Hero Honda and LML Vespa have also substantially beefed up their service centres to offer personalized attention and satisfactory solution to product-related problems. Service organizations such as Apollo Hospitals, Citibank, ANZ Grindlays Bank, Hyat Regency Hotel, HDFC, Federal Express Service and Singapore Airlines are getting specially attuned to listening to customer problems. At times, they even go out of their way to solve customer problems.
CUSTOMIZATION OF PRODUCTS AND SERVICES
Customization means offering a product or service tailor-made to suit the convenience of each individual customer. In the Air India frequent flier scheme (discussed in part 2), for instance, there is a customized chain at work. The database records the customer’s flight and travel preferences and other likes and dislikes. This is updated each time the customer takes a flight. So the system allots the person a favourite seat, his preferred meal and on arrival at destination a room in the hotel where the newspaper he prefers is delivered to him. All of these go into building closer bonds with the customer.
Levi Strauss, the California-based apparel company began marketing a ‘made to order’ service for customizing women’s jeans in selected US locations. Sales clerks measure customers and feed the data into a computer-aided design information system. The customer tries on sample jeans in the store, to perfect the fit. This additional data is also fed into the system. The system forwards the information to a computerized fabric-cutting machine at the factory and the jeans are made to order. The custom jeans cost only US$10 more than the mass-produced jeans.
In India, Mafatlal sells fabrics as well as branded readymade garments. A research conducted by MARG showed that while most executives buy readymade shirts, only a few preferred to buy readymade trousers because unlike shirts, trousers don’t offer as good a fit as tailored ones. In its quest to get closer to the customer, Mafatlal decided to create a product that offers the purchase convenience of readymade trouser with the fit of a tailored garment. Thus was born the ‘Dial-a-trouser’ service targeted at busy executives. The service was first introduced in Bombay and is now extended to Bangalore and Delhi. The customer may call the company’s showroom to send the tailor to his home or office. The tailor goes there with the shade card and samples of fabrics. The fabric and colour are selected, measurements taken and the trousers are delivered within five days of the order.
One common attribute of the three customer benefits enumerated above is that, they all solve some major consumption related problems, like quality, purchase process, ease of use, product suitability and so on. At the end of the day, all efforts made by firms to retain their customers, as much as it benefits the company’s turnover also end up to the benefit of the customers. So, next time you want to choose a brand, you may want to consider what more is in it for you besides consumption. Adam Smith, a famous economist in his book “Wealth of Nations” in the year 1775 says “Consumption is the sole end and purpose of all production and the interest of the producer ought to be attended to, only so far it may be necessary for promoting that of the consumer”.

Reference: National Institute of Business Management – Marketing Management – Module II
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Saturday, 30 December 2017

CARRY YOUR CROSS My Friend.

The reason many people can’t seem to find peace is because they’ve mistaken the cross they should carry as a problem they should solve.
Some of our worries are problems which require solutions, while some are crosses which we must carry and follow our maker. But right now, many of us are still running around looking for solutions to perceived problems when actually, all we require is wisdom and strength to carry the cross.
As we round up and enter a new year, I want to encourage everyone to start making efforts at identifying what issues of his/her life require seeking solutions and which ones require handling with courage in 2018. Even when the problems are well identified, we shouldn’t complicate things and seek solutions in the wrong places.
We have equal rights to God, so let no “spiritualist” feed on your gullibility. Some of them give you visions and prophesies, you dedicate your resources to the recommended solutions, then they blame you for lack of faith when their ideas don’t come to pass, and then you start cursing your luck, especially when you see others receiving miracles and victories for similar challenges!
Perhaps, for that man/woman who got his miracle, it was a problem, while for you it is a cross. Perhaps it is even also a problem for you, but the appointed time for solution had not come or your own solution is not “spirituality” but common sense strategies. Think deep for the New Year, identify your solutions, find yourself some peace of mind and let new ideas be birthed in you.
Accepting to carry your cross is not the same as accepting defeat; neither should we give up without a fight. However, God has not promised us life without troubles and we should remember his thoughts for us are of peace and not of evil to give us an ‘expected’ end (Jeremiah 29: 11).
Many of us pray for “light at the end of the tunnel”, just like in the case of Joseph, Job, Sarah, Hannah in the bible. We covet fulfillment of great promises like in Abraham, David, Solomon, etc. But we hardly feel sorry for Judas Iscariot for having such a destiny of betraying our savior Jesus Christ. We should sometimes wonder too why Moses never saw the Promised Land? “His enemies prevailed on him”?
If Judas had the chance to change his destiny, I’m sure he would choose to be remembered as a saint. He dined with Jesus, had access to salvation, but Jesus Christ did not save him from such a shameful ending. Did you say it was written? Yes it was, just as some of our challenges in life were written too and we must seek the courage to handle them.
It is either we manage our challenges or we let them define our existence and how we end our lives. Bad times don’t last forever, even if they do, there will always be some few times when every human will find mercy in midst of storms. Let those periodic victories ignite sincere gratitude and praise to the almighty. Find yourself some peace in the word of God in John 16: 33 “…In the world ye shall have tribulations; but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world”.
Have a fruitful 2018. Amani juu yenu!
@Tywo Akintoye

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